Destiny is just one way for people to either confirm their life's actions or blame their own terrible decisions on something other than themselves.
or to not have to feel like you have to have a direction in life. Just saying, there's prolly some reason that you don't want to have to feel like you are in charge of your decision-making, but you are.
here's a quote I once found and now sits on my facebook.
Regardless of who or what has influenced us, we are ultimately responsible for what we do with our lives. Choices we make decide who we become. Even if our choices aren't absolutely free, they are still our choices, and no one can make them for us.